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Forgive Yourself

Life is challenging but we are not put here to live in struggle. Struggle is nothing more than life lessons. There is absolutely nothing wrong with failure, we can't always come on top. When a person makes a mistake, experience teaches us. Perfection does not exist in man. There is no good in holding disappointment within yourself because everyone messes up.

We are accountable for our life choices and the actions that we take, however, we can not harbor our mistakes. Consequences can be harsh but with forgiveness we have a gateway to a fresh start.

For example, it is hard to live up to certain people's expectations. I have disappointed quite a few people because of the choices that I made. Self-condemnation was one of the heaviest crosses that I grew up having to bare. I could not bring myself to asking for forgiveness, nor practicing how to forgive myself. I realized that withholding my mistakes, left me stagnant. I was stuck in denial and I made it more difficult to evolve. Running is not how you avoid your faults. 

Recognize your wrong doings. Owning up to your mistakes is a clear sign of maturity, as well as, establishing wiser methods to avoid identical choices. Learn how to live by your moral codes so you do not have to face the stresses of guilt and self-conviction.

Asking someone for forgiveness is only a bandage, especially if you cannot bring yourself to moving on from your poor choices. Each day welcomes new opportunities to grow and make amends with yourself and those who may have been effected by your actions/decisions.

A scripture found in 2 Corinthians 5:17 states, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

It is all about perception, look at your mistakes and challenges as lessons. If you make a mistake today, find a way to fix it and grow from it tomorrow. Be optimistic about each new day and make the best of what’s to come. Moving on takes time but as long as you are persistently working on self-growth, in due time your burdens will feel almost weightless. Don’t shape your life around being perfect, attempting to reach perfection will always lead to disappointment. Instead, shape your life around being a better you.

-De’Laurenz



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  1. Thank you for these eloquent words of encouragement that blessed me today

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