Happiness is Just Around the Corner

Anger is addictive and I do not think people realize how easy it is to slip into the traps of negativity. It is not impossible to be positive through troubling times. Antagonism is a constricting sign of distress.

Anger is reflected differently in people. According to www.psychguides.com, there are different forms of anger, which include:

1. Chronic anger – prolonged, cause of other mental disorders
2. Passive anger – sneering sarcasm 
3. Overwhelmed anger – caused by stress
4. Self-inflicted anger – caused by feelings of guilt
5. Judgmental anger – directed towards others
6. Volatile anger – violent anger

From experience, I grew up watching family members carry anger throughout their entire adult lives. They carry the weight of rage from their childhood and into parenthood. I have witnessed their own children growing up and avoiding their parent when they were no longer forced to be in that type of environment. It is natural to be upset but when anger becomes your personality, you ultimately seclude yourself.

The UC Davis Medical Center states that one out of five Americans have an anger management problem.

I understand that it is hard being around happiness when you do not always want to feel that way. I have been jealous of someone else's jubilation as if I could not obtain that same level of joy.  It sounds ridiculous when you put those feelings into words but we have all felt that way. It was MY choice to live in misery and I detained myself. When I finally got tired of feeling that way, I chose to follow happiness.

Some individuals, however, may need treatments to control their behavior.  There are counselors and anger management groups that are available for those who find it difficult to make peace. It is ok to seek assistance if you have trouble finding self-enlightenment.

I always think of Newton’s Third Law which states, “Every action has an opposite yet equal reaction”. I learned that basic law of physics in high school. Although that law pertains to scientific explanations, human chemistry is a part of everyday life.

Spite does not have to be your natural reaction to mistreatment. When someone attempts to cause you harm stop and think before you emotionally react.

Experience has tought me that I could not focus everyone else's happiness. It is good to be around positivity because it does influence your emotions; however, happiness comes from within. If you cannot be happy for yourself, by yourself then it will never belong to you. You will put yourself in a position where you depend on other people's happiness to feed you good energy. 

There is freedom in happiness. What I want you to get out of this post is that your fight is not over as long as you are breathing. If you have been mistreated use your time wisely to grow. Take this journey and the challenges that you face and recognize the blessings that you are given through hardships and in your success. Keep growing; continue moving because happiness is just around the corner.

De'Laurenz